Disclaimer: I am not commenting on equal rights for girls to have an education or treated with respect amongst men in their cultures. I am talking about feminism in our North American culture.
Feminism seems to be a very hot topic in our world today. We are constantly bombarded with messages on social media, tv and the internet.
I truly believe the strive for equal rights through the feminist movement has lost sight of what it actually means to be a female in today’s society. Innately, males and females are not equal. By design, God has made us different. Our body structure is unalike, our thought patterns are contrasting and our capabilities are very differing. So why do we demand equal treatment?
We need to be treated according to our nature. This does not mean that we should not all be treated with kindness and respect; this has nothing to do with it. Rather, we need to be accommodated according to our design.
In today’s society, I believe there is a lack of chivalry and lady-like femininity. Our boys don’t know how to treat a woman and our girls don’t know how to be modest and demure. There is absolutely nothing wrong for a man to open a door for a lady. There is also nothing wrong for a wife to serve her husband. These acts do not take away from each role, but instead show selflessness and sacrifice. Just because I am submissive to my husband by cooking for him, cleaning the house and doing acts of service for him, does not mean I am weak or repressed. In fact, I view this as feminism in its fundamental form. On the flip-side, having my husband work hard for his family and protect us, is a noble trait.
This does not mean that my husband does not do the laundry or I don’t take out the trash or fill the van up with gas. We work together to make our household run. But yes, we do have pretty traditional roles in our family. And we’re happy with it.
Our goal is to raise our sons to treat girls with respect, dignity and courtesy. We also want to raise our daughter to be lady-like, reserved and to have self-respect.
There is such a lack of sacrifice and selflessness in our culture. No-one wants to do anything for anyone. We are out for ourselves and ourselves only. We don’t want life to be hard or put us out. This is why we have an epidemic of millennials with failed relationships and no commitments. They weren’t taught to be generous or altruistic.
For these reasons, we are not raising our daughter to be a feminist in society’s definition of it. We are raising a different type of feminist: A feminine feminist!